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Are we too quick to blame and slow to praise? It seems we are.

Profits of Praise

It was the end of my exhausting first day as waitress in a busy New York restaurant. My cap had gone awry, my apron was stained, my feet ached. The loaded trays I carried felt heier and heier. Weary and discouraged, I didn't seem able to do anything right. As I made out a plicated check for a family with several children who had changed their ice-cream order a dozen times, I was ready to quit.

Then the father smiled at me as he handed me my tip. "Well done," he said. "You've looked after us really well."

Suddenly my tiredness vanished. I smiled back, and later, when the manager asked me how I'd liked my first day, I said, "Fine!" Those few words of praise had changed everything.

Praise is like sunlight to the human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellows the warm sunshine of praise.

Why - when one word can bring such pleasure? A friend of mine who trels widely always tries to learn a little of the language of any place she visits. She's not much of a linguist, but she does know how to say one word - "beautiful" - in several languages. She can use it to a mother holding her baby, or to lonely salesman fishing out pictures of his family. The ability has earned her friends all over the world.

It's strange how chary we are about praising. Perhaps it's because few of us know how to accept pliments gracefully. Instead, we are embarrassed and shrug off the words we are really so glad to hear. Because of this defensive reaction, direct pliments are surprisingly difficult to give. That is why some of the most valued pats on the back are those which e to us indirectly, in a letter or passed on by a friend. When one thinks of the speed with which spiteful remarks are conveyed, it seems a pity that there isn't more effort to relay pleasing and flattering ments.

It's especially rewarding to give praise in areas in which effort generally goes unnoticed or unmentioned. An artist gets plimented for a glorious picture, a cook for a perfect meal. But do you ever tell you laundry manager how pleased you are when the shirts are done just right? Do you ever praise your paper boy for getting the paper to you on time 365 days a year?

Praise is particularly appreciated by those doing routine jobs: gas-station attendants, waitresses - even housewives. Do you ever go into a house and say, "What a tidy room"? Hardly anybody does. That's why housework is considered such a dreary grind. ment is often made about activities which are relatively easy and satisfying, like arranging flowers; but not about jobs which are hard and dirty, like scrubbing floors. Shakespeare said, "Our praises are our wages." Since so often praise is the only wage a housewife receives, surely she of all people should get her measure.

Mothers know instinctively that for children an ounce of praise is worth a pound of scolding. Still, we're not always as perceptive as we might be about applying the rule. One day I was criticizing my children for squabbling. "Can you never play peacefully?" I shouted. Susanna looked at me quizzically. "Of course we can," she said. "But you don't notice us when we do."

Teachers agree about the value of praise. One teacher writes that instead of drowning students' positions in critical red ink, the teacher will get far more constructive results by finding one or two things which he been done better than last time, and menting forably on them. "I believe that a student knows when he has handed in something above his usual standard," writes the teacher, "and that he waits hungrily for a brief ment in the margin to show him that the teacher is aware of it, too."

Behioral scientists he done countless experiments to prove that any human being tends to repeat an act which has been immediately followed by a pleasant result. In one such experiment, a number of schoolchildren were divided into three groups and given arithmetic tests daily for five days. One group was consistently praised for its previous performance; another group was criticized; the third was ignored.

Not surprisingly, those who were praised improved dramatically. Those who were criticized improved also, bus not so much. And the scores of the children who were ignored hardly improved at all. Interestingly the brightest children were helped just as much by criticism as by praise, but the less able children reacted badly to criticism, needed praise the most. Yet the latter are the very youngsters who, in most schools, fail to get the pat on the back.

To give praise costs the giver nothing but a moment's thought and a moment's effort - perhaps a quick phone call to pass on a pliment, or five minutes spent writing an appreciative letter. It is such a small investment - and yet consider the results it may produce. "I can live for two months on a good pliment," said Mark Twain.

So, let's be alert to the small excellences around us - and ment on them. We will not only bring joy into other people's lives, but also, very often, added happiness into out own.

NEW WORDS

profit

n. advantage or good obtained from sth…… money gained in business 益处;利润

exhaust

vt. tire out 使筋疲力尽

waitress

n. woman waiter

awry

a. with a turn to one side 歪;斜

apron

n. 围裙

stain

vt. make dirty marks on 玷污

load

vt. put a full amount of things on or in (sth.) 装满

tray

n. 托盘

weary

a. very tired 厌倦的,厌烦的

discourage

vt. cause to lose courage or confidence 使泄气,使灰心

ice-cream

n. 冰淇淋

dozen

n. twelve

(一)打

quit

v. stop (doing sth.) and lee 离(职),不干

sunlight

n. light of the sun; sunshine

human

a. of or concerning people

apply

vt. 运用,实施

application

n.

somehow

ad. for some reason or other; in some way or other 不知怎么地,以某种方式

reluctant

a. unwilling 不情愿的;勉强的

sunshine

n. light of the sun

linguist

n. person who is good at foreign languages; person who studies the science of language 通晓数国语言的人;语言学家

salesman

n. man whose work is selling a pany's goods to businesses, homes, etc. 推销员

earn

vt. get in return for work or as a reward for one's qualities, etc. 挣得,赢得

chary

a. careful; cautious 谨慎小心的

pliment

n. praise 赞美(话)

vt. praise 赞美

gracefully

ad. 大大方方地;优美地

graceful

a.

embarrass

vt. make awkward or ashamed 使尴尬

defensive

a. 防御

surprisingly

as. in a surprising manner or degree

pat

n. tap made with the open hand 轻拍

v. tap gently with the open hand

indirectly

ad. in an indirect way 间接地

indirect

a.

spiteful

a. hing or showing ill will 恶意的

convey

vt. make (ideas, views, feelings, etc.) know to another person 转达,传达

relay

vt. 传送;传达

flatter

vt. praise too much; praise insincerely (in order to please) 过奖;谄媚,奉承

ment

n. opinion, explanation or judgment written or spoken about an event, book, person, state of affairs, etc. 评论

vi. make ments (on); give opinions

rewarding

a. worthwhile; worth doing; giving a reward to 值得(做)的;报答的

reward

vt.

generally

ad. usually 通常,一般地

artist

n. person who practises or works in one of the fine arts, esp. painting 画家,艺术家

glorious

a. splendid 辉煌的

laundry

n. 洗衣店

appreciate

vt. understand and enjoy; be thankful for 欣赏,鉴赏;感谢,感激

routine

a. not unusual or exciting; regular 常规的,例行的

gas-station

n. 加油站

attendant

n. 服务人员

tidy

a. neatly arranged 整洁的,整齐的

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